Tips for allies
101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women by Michael Urbina. I don’t agree with all of Urbina’s points, but there’s enough there to chew over. The comments are worth a quick skim, and give you an idea of how complicated and contested some ideas can be.
How to be an ally if you are a person with privilege by Frances Kendell.
How to be a (male) feminist ally by Elizabeth Pickett of Feminist Current.
Don’t be That Guy: by Synecdochic over on LJ.
Critiques of Allie-dom
And a good response to it by Jamie Utt: So You Call Yourself an Ally: 10 Things All ‘Allies’ Need to Know at Everyday Feminism.
The problems with white allies and white privilege written by Tanya Golash-Boza.
For Whites Who Consider Being Allies But Find it Much too Tuff from the ever excellent Crunk Feminist Collective
For white privilege, White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh is a classic in the genre, but even better is this critique of it by Jessie-Lane Metz over at the Toast: Ally-phobia: On the Trayvon Martin Ruling, White Feminism, and the Worst of Best Intentions. I especially recommend following ALL the links in that piece – your mind will thank you.
And inspired by McIntosh’s article, this one compiled by Barry Deutsch on male privilege.
And here’s another one on why we’re not “genderblind” yet.